How do you see yourself? Self Image is what you think you look like, how you see your personality, what kind of person you think you are, what you believe others think of you, how much you like yourself or you think others like you and the status you feel you have…
Having recently read a range of articles about women and confidence the one thing that stood out was how poorly some of the women viewed themselves in terms of their personality and their external presence. One of the articles stated that women over 32 started to feel less confident about themselves, their bodies, their looks, hair and dress sense and worried about being liked by everyone and were concerned about other people’s opinions of them. Another article stated that women were happiest at 28.
At 46 I feel better about myself now than ever before. I may have been fitter at 32 due to being in the sports industry but I was less confident about who I was and had a need to listen to other people’s opinions and seek their approval. Now I accept that some people will like me, some people I can win over and some people will dislike me no matter what… so why waste my time trying to get those people onside?
What about you? In this image conscious society are you still able to hold your own and be a free spirit or do you feel the pressure to rush out to get the latest night cream, designer dress or a spot of surgery? Do you feel the need to be liked by everyone or do you accept that quality is more important than quantity when it comes to friendship?
What makes women so image conscious; is it the media, the need to fulfil men’s desires or is it a lack of confidence?
Is it the media?
When you blame the media you are externalising the issue and handing them the power to control your feelings. Like it or not the media prints what the public, generally speaking, demands. If the public didn’t read sensationalised stories the media wouldn’t print them. If the public weren’t obsessed with size zero there wouldn’t be magazines with size zero models on every cover, not least because they wouldn’t be bought. The public buys it, consumes it and therefore the media just keeps on providing it!
What about fulfilling men’s needs?
When you feel the need to fulfil someone else’s needs you are in essence dismissing your own… It’s lovely to be with a partner who admires you for the confident woman you are and who does not feel the need to control you by telling you what to wear, how to wear it and when, or even worse, tells you that you need more makeup or cosmetic surgery. Your self-image is yours.
Simple Tips for being more image confident:
- Ageing is part of the process of living so start to enjoy it! Look after yourself by all means but only indulge in the lotions & potions and treatments that YOU desire for yourself
- Your body is a map of your life journey so respect it; treat it well and it will do the rest. Look at your body and learn to love it
- Dress your body in a way that makes you feel comfortable and wonderful because you deserve it!
Love who you are in all your uniqueness. You are a one-off, never to be replicated and you are appreciated.